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What about children? Will you have some of your own? How many?
Will your partner expect his or her children from a previous
marriage to come into your home? Who will administer discipline
and what kind?
Who will be in charge of cleaning the house? Cooking meals? Taking
care of household chores such as laundry? Will these be shared
tasks or will the wife be expected to handle everything at home?
What about church? Will the couple attend church together? Which
church? Every service or Sunday morning only? If the husband
and wife go to different churches, which church will the children
go to?
What about holidays? What are the family traditions in your partner's
family? Will you go to one certain place every Christmas or will
you alternate between your family and your partner's family?
What about personal habits? Does your partner have an occasional
drink or smoke an occasional cigaret? Does your partner maintain
your standards of personal cleanliness and appearance when not
in a dating situation?
How will each partner spend his or her free time? Will a certain
amount of personal freedom be allowed or is each expected to
"be with" the other during every spare moment?
Will you have friends over? If so, which ones, yours or his?
Will the wife be expected to entertain the husband's business
associates, family, card playing buddies? Will the husband be
expected to help entertain the wife's business associates, church
friends, relatives?
How much contact will there be with former spouses and how will
that contact be handled? Is your future spouse a jealous person?
What does the partner like to do in his or her spare time? Are
there activities that you will do together as a couple? Playing
golf? Hiking? Fishing? Watching TV sports?
What about politics? Can you tolerate the other person's views
or will they be a source of contention?
Will elderly parents be brought into your home to be cared for
if necessary?
Now that I've got you started thinking, make up your own list
of areas to discuss. Ask yourself, "Do I really know how
_________ feels about this subject?"
You know already what is important to you and how you will want
to live your life. Discuss those things with your prospective
partner and find out what you need to know now so you won't be
surprised later. You might save yourself a major mistake.